"I've seen him grow a lot, and I've seen him get more comfortable with his position [as a celebrity]. But I also don't see any change in who he is."
- Kristen

"She's a brilliant actress. Breathtakingly beautiful, and furthermore, she has an unbelievable charisma. In front of the camera we harmonised perfectly, the chemistry just worked."
- Robert

Sunday, 23 November 2014

A Change Is In The Air...

Where do i begin...
I have had some time to get over being away and back into the daily grind of things, but i see some things haven't changed around here (and other places)

The constant need for reassurance in the hope that what you are seeing is not what you are seeing. But rather a pretty bad nightmare...
I have never given much thought to just how much or how far people have invested in this relationship. Other than the mindless drivel that is exorcised out of the fingers of poisonous minds hell bent in shouting their theories as far and as wide as they can.

But it seems the pattern of behaviour as of late is similar if not glaringly obvious, the same...Rob has taken up with a new woman 'cue the Rob hate'
Lack of vision or maybe too many have the denial glasses on, that they can't see two foot in front of them just how well played they are at being played.
It's like an episode out of 'punk'd' any second now you are waiting for the host to jump out from behind the door and shout 'you have been punk'd'
Common sense has flown out the window and with that, the objective dreams of many.

Can i just say at this point, this is my general view of this fandom of late and not a complete reflection of what i have witnessed on my blog and the blogs of others.
Far be it for me to tell people what they can or cannot say, but stop for a minute and look at this from a completely removed and objective point of view...

Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart owe us nothing, so why do i see the constantly repetitive cry of 'do something, show us that this is all a game?'
'How dare he do this to Kristen!'

Do what exactly?

If you believe he has moved on from Kristen, then surely he is doing nothing but what normal people do. If by this stage you believe this, then pray tell why are you still in this fandom or better still, subjecting yourself to being dragged back into the relationship argument?

I said i would be sad to see people go, i also said i would have a long think about whether to continue on with this blog. To be perfectly honest i am tired of having to hold people's hands through a relationship that was never yours to begin with.
I am a person of a very broad and open mind. I know how the gossip/entertainment media works, having witnessed it myself through my husbands family connected into it.
I also know what a 'staged' relationship looks like and it most certainly does not look like the relationship Rob and Kristen have had since 2009.

If you want to believe Rob is a drugged out, wasted boozer; whoring his personal life out in front of the media, because he is shallow and not worthy of Kristen's wrath, never mind sympathy. Then please feel free to join the other blogs out there and comment sections, who believe this and not bring it to my blog.
I have been around a very long time and have known of this young man with equal length of time and although to be perfectly fair, those from the US and further afield, have had very little knowledge of him prior to winning the coveted title of Edward Cullen in Twilight, they still believe they can speak their mind in a libelous manner (some who have already had a brush with the law governing the United States of America)

I defended Kristen through the shit-storm of 2012 and got little if no thanks for it. Other than a simple 'you cannot forget what was seen and published by the media' Oh yes i can because "the media does terrible, terrible things to the world, it makes people stupid" - Robert Pattinson. A man who has very few nice or kind words to say about the media, but then again when you have sisters, who both worked in Public Relations (one has gone on to continue with her pursue in the music industry) you can of get a jaded sense of the world and how it is perceived and sold to the highest bidder.

So you can take your 'Rob and Twigs' posters and really shove them where the sun doesn't shine. I know a PR relationship when i see one and when a person appears and then disappears like the ending of an act in a play - you kind of see for yourself how this is panning out - body language doesn't lie. You may try and hide it, mask it, even over play it, but the variations are never the same. Your face always gives you away, even the most dedicated actor or politician who plaster on a smile for their audience and perform to the very last drop of blood and sweat has been spilled, can't hide behind the mask forever, the truth ALWAYS comes out in the end..............

T.

Sunday, 2 November 2014

Both Sides Now...

I'm never giving up, i don't see why i should...

Just because you don't see a relationship, doesn't mean it's not there...
Maybe the fans and the media became just too greedy, too needy and demanded they perform 24/7 just to appease their over obsessed ideas of what a relationship looks like...and it doesn't look like a poorly orchestrated stroll through a major European city, holding hands just so the paps can see it and then drop them as soon as they believe no one is looking - BTW.

It's not a 'need to turn the spotlight on my career, because i am getting no where by just being a pain in the arse and not conforming to what is expected of me.'

A relationship is pure, private, intimate and not a show, it's not a 'see me walking around in public places just so you can catch another media trash story'
Those who have always maintained a certain relationship was/is nothing but PR, open your stupid eyes and stop the difference. Spot where your narrow minded, blind to the real world blinkers have got it wrong time and time again.

You want to know what a PR relationship is all about, take a look around you in Hollywood. Those who have the paps on speed dial on yet another date at a fancy 'well known' restaurant/bar where they are guaranteed that they will be spotted and photographed to be on E! News in a heartbeat. Displayed on the front covers of all the rags so that their shiny little star will still be shining the next day. If they are not being talked about, photographed or rumoured to have a different relationship every week, then that star gets very dull, very quick.

You want to know what a 'REAL' relationship is all about, it's one that is not seen. It's one where the couple want to keep their relationship as far removed from the media as humanly possible. It's one where they dislike the media intrusion and the lies that are  spread about them. It's one where they don't go out of their way to be seen dining out or simply enjoying the quiet time they have together.

The fans are the downfalls of many a relationship, the constant need to know what is happening, confessing or venting their frustrations on social media, making up worst case scenarios inside their dreary minds, because they are obsessed and need to find a better hobby. They spread rumours like you and i would spread butter on toast. They actively log on and email celebrity news sites with fake info because it's the only way they can get any kind of thrill in their lives.

But worst of all are the haters. Those so deep seeded with jealousy and hatred that they can't even function without the resort of being hateful, pitiful and vengeful on either person they dislike. Not only to they hate on one or more celebrity, but they turn their poisonous behaviour on other people they disagree with. Result, the fandom that used to be a community of harmonious happy people is now nothing but a battlefield of them vs us, of liars vs the truth, non-believers vs the believers.
It's no longer about two people, who despite that the media want you to believe or what 'insiders' want you to believe or just the general 'i know more than you do' want you to believe, know more about their relationship status than anyone else and they are not saying anything about it.

Respect is something this fandom has lost and lost it stupendously.
People need to ask themselves why are they still here? Is it for the fact that they maintain the same beliefs they did several years ago and that was with clarity, to not believe everything the media tries to sell or ulterior motive people would like to whisper in your ear, then you have done pretty well for yourselves. If you swing from one opinion to another, add on other celebrities into your fan grouping, but still try and maintain that you believe when really you don't - then this fandom has grown tired for you and clinging to the idea of having a huge following makes you special, actually makes you pretty sad.
If you have never believed but stayed in touch because it's better staying with a group of people who believe, than sitting on your own...i hear the Kardashian's are looking for more fans.

My following has always been...right where it all started, why?
I don't follow the media, i know first hand what a bunch of ill-reputed liars they are.
I don't follow any cliques or groups, i allow anyone in and will listen to what they have to say, as long as they are respectful.
I see 'both sides' and while i will not always agree, i allow the freedom of choice in what has  to be said, as long as you own your words and don't expect me to soothe your brow or stop you from worrying - own your fan following.

I am going to be away, i don't know for how long as my personal life needs attending to and i won't be online for a while. I have a good friend who is going to keep an eye on my blog while i am away and post up anything i send to her - say hello to Bree :)

But take from this post my stark feelings. If you still believe in Rob and Kristen and the fact that they don't have to 'sell' their relationship to get attention - the media and the fans became too obsessed with their personal lives and that fogged up the line drawn about their careers. They are both serious actors and their performances should always outweigh their personal lives. Then i look forward to seeing you all when i get back.

If you don't...then it was nice knowing you for a while, sorry you feel the way you do, but i completely understand you have moved on.

T.

(Scheduled post for tempest) Bx

Monday, 13 October 2014

Using Common Sense...

I've deliberating whether to continue on with this support mechanism that is DIDY?
It's been 6 long years, 6 wonderful and exciting years in the land of the fandom of Rob and Kristen...

We had to dodge a lot of criticism from those who seem hell bent in making not only their own lives miserable, but the lives of others too.
2012 was a rocky road for us, 2013 seen a lot more heartburn and this last few weeks it has just descended into anarchy for want of a better word...
People choosing sides, people accusing other people of racial discrimination, while others proceed to prove just how really and truly removed they are from reality and they continue hurling insults, making very dangerous accusations and generally proving that it's their lives and their actions need looked at and not others.

Meanwhile, the two people that brought a lot of us together are continuing on with their lives, oblivious (thank god) to the utter chaos this fandom and hater fandom have got themselves in.
2008, saw two people attracted to one and other and there began the split; his fans not wanting him with her and her fans not wanting her to give in and go to him. Neither side have had any say in the outcome, even though either side have made it perfectly clear and vocally loud what their opinions are all about.
And what is if for eh? Answer yourselves that question. The revolt, the disgusting and insulting behaviour; accusing Kristen of the racial slander a young 'up and coming music artist' and demand people boycott her premiere's are people, that far gone in their delusion that they believe their thoughts, their completely lost view of life will make a difference. Do you not understand how completely and utterly lunatic your behaviour is getting?

Kristen Stewart has done nothing wrong in this madness, Robert Pattinson has done nothing wrong in this madness other than not live up to YOUR perfect ideal of what they are supposed to do in your fantasies. The media, that darling gossiping, lying and money making media have had you lot - the fans and the hater fans wrapped around their fingers for so long now that you don't know which end is up. People accusing the media of lying and yet click on every tabloid story, retweet and discuss it at length on social platforms like twitter and tumblr, haven't you realised that YOU are supplying the media with their stories. YOU are the media's 'source'. The haters of either are devious enough to know that's what they are doing, hence they crow so much about it whenever they can. The idiots, those who are condemning in one hand and condoning in the other are giving the media their next paycheck.

It's all this i am done with, not Rob and Kristen. I have always supported them always will. They are two bright stars in a pretty dull sky as far as i am concerned and they both deserve happiness, good lord they both deserve it. They equally deserve good fans too but that seems to be very little too late. So many as soon as the obviously 'tampered with' photos emerged online of Rob out with 'friends, including FKA Twigs' RK fans jumped on the bridge and threw themselves off while throwing Rob under the bus. Similarities of July 2012 came loud and clear and it's with that, where my head is moving towards.

I can't sit by and hold people's hands anymore, i did it the last time and there is not enough energy in me this time to do it again. I have been battling a personal family illness that has taken a good part of me away from sitting online and trying to make people see the truth. My priorities have changed, because of my personal circumstances and life is just too short worrying about whether this fandom is going to survive another Tsunami of hysteria if Kristen so much as looks at her friends a certain way, or Rob is out with friends that also include females. This fandom is it's own worst enemy, i have been saying this since last year. If your waking moments are filled with worrying about what zip code, state, province Rob or Kristen are in. What clothes, bags, glasses they are each wearing. Whether they are ninja and seeing each other, despite the lying media saying something completely different. If who he is hanging out with, who she is hanging out with are just friends and keep on speculating on social media so the media itself writes yet another juicy story...

The perhaps you need them together (or apart) more than you need reality and that is a sad place to be in anyone's life.

I saw a very happy, very content and very 'in place' young woman last week as she took to promoting her new movies with clarity and integrity. That to me says more than i needed to know, Kristen Stewart is in a very good place, both emotionally, physically and spiritually and that as a fan is all i need and deserve to know.

Robert Pattinson has never lived by the code of doing what the media or his fans want him to do just to please them, so if you are waiting for him to perform for you the way you want him too...you will be waiting a very long time indeed. His friends, his life, his work and his place is not doing what YOU want him to do, but what HE wants to do.

As a fan, i have always respected that and will continue to do so, because that is all i deserve to know as a fan.

I will continue to support Rob and Kristen but i refuse to support this fandom and the direction it is heading. I understand people want answers and the only answer i can give you is 'Use Your Common Sense' and your answer will always be there in front of you.

T